Well you know about my esteem,there just isn`t any. But thats down to what I have been told not what I read or saw in mags. You have seen my post on this in thedebatething. It really is bad news for the young things that are not built that way.

You really are in the minority AJ (or that's how it seems a lot of the time), a lot of guys are only interested in what score their woman would get from their friends.

I am so grateful that I found my husband before the insecurities really hit me.

well, its nice to know that someone else thinks the same as i do about stuff.

My god you really are one of a kind aint ya AJ. I wish more men spoke and thought like you, bless ya little cotton socks x

What's wrong with those lines? On certain people *cough*Lecturers*cough*, they are quite attractive!

Btw. What a scary world, where only Barbie and Ken are allowed to breed!

I agree with Sarah, you are def in the minority, sadly. I told my dad I'd spoken to that woman and he said...oh the one that used to be an air hostess? or a model or something?

She never was, but she is 6 foot, slim, with long legs and long black hair.

Shows where my dad's head is at. And my husband's!

Good for you. What a breath of fresh air.

I think you are great. I look different to many people as I have a large birthmark on my face. During my teens this was a nightmare as no boys would go out with me but they would all be my mates (peer pressure is a terrible thing). After leaving school I realised that it isn't what you look like but what you are inside and I was never short of dates. Now happily married but happy to say that I still get chatted up despite my baby belly and flabby arse. A lot of my very pretty friends wish they had my confidence but they never will until they realise that there is more to life than make up and highlights.

First of all, what have they done to the comments? Ugh!
Secondly, I would like to say that I prefer a man with a few laughter lines to some botoxed-into-nowhere plastic person.

I cant stand it when people tell me what to wear! I am not what you might say 'fashion concious'

It's scary to think that people in 'the media' will eventually all look the same if they insist on all this bloody surgery - it's also weird how the women start to look less feminine after surgery and more 'bride of wildenstein' and the men look more feminine after surgery!! lol. It's a mad place this planet but I like and am comfy being me now. My teens were far too angsty, insecure and appearance driven, as is often the case, but I now appreciate having a brain that enjoys learning more, having opinions and appreciating stuff, not just working out how long it would take to pay for another round of botox, (allowing no show of emotions on your face), and get that hideous designer handbag. Good post Mr Aj. x

probably a bit late to be commenting on this, but would just like to voice my opinion =]
being a fifteen year old girl in a world like this takes a lot of work. going to skool isn't about learning, it's about the friends you relationships you have, and these things usually depend on your appearance. thankfully i've found some friends who really have no preferance as to whether i look good or not.
i have to admit i do take an interest in my appearance, the way any teenage girl would. but i would NEVER go to the extreme of paying for someone to change how people will view me for the rest of my life. plastic surgery is just admitting your insecurity but covering it up as soon as possible. unless you've been involved in some kind of accident and are having surgery just to look as closely as how you did before, then i think it's just a sign of being a coward. unable to face the world as you are, having to change just in case other people dislike your appearance.
you should grow to love the way you are naturally, imperfections and all; they're what makes us human. we all just need to focus on our personalities more aswell. the happiness of finding the most handsome guy in the world will never cover the disappointment of realising he's a self-obsessed weirdo with no personality.

..sorry to waffle on like that =P
xox

Woo to you!

What a beautiful, beautiful post.

I'm so glad you wrote it. You feel exactly the same way as I do.

It's not limited to girls, as you've identified - my boyfriend has much bigger appearance issues than I do. My self esteem issues are pretty much limited to who I actually am, rather than looks. But that's by the grace of God, and a lot of people finding me attractive at the age of 18 or 19, rather than society or anything. According to society I'm average because I don't get my hair cut often enough or something, but I feel good when I look in the mirror and I know people find me attractive.

Everyone is found attractive by someone and at the end of the day one person is all we need and that's what it should come down to.

God bless, Jenni xx

If only more people shared your views the world would be a happier place, I'm sure.

Why have I only just seen this........?!?

There's nothing wrong with fashion mags.......!!!